Setting Boundaries - A Complete Guide
Learn how to assert your boundaries and communicate them in a clear and relational way to build healthy and loving connections.
Have you ever had your boundaries crossed and felt disrespected, but didn't know how to address it? Are you tired of people inserting themselves in your life with unsolicited opinions and advice? Better yet, do you long for healthy and life-giving relationships that are nurturing and honouring?
Chances are, you've answered yes to both questions, and you are not alone.
I first learned about boundaries 12 years ago, when I was early into my 20's. I walked up to my dad and bluntly said "I'm an adult and I am setting boundaries. I do not have to answer to your questions and requests and I will do what I like."
I still remember my father's face when I said the word "boundaries." It was of a person who had no idea what I was taking about and why suddenly his obedient daughter seemed hostile.
Weeks following.. I kept saying "we need BOUNDARIES" convinced that would do the trick.
I remember at one point he asked me "how can you say that to your father?" He didn't understand what I was doing and I didn't go about it in the best way either. I was aggressive and his response was defensive shielding the hurt and rejection he felt. It was a nightmare for a little while, until we sat down and talked heart to heart and came to a better understanding and healthy boundary setting.
My hope is to make this process easier for you!
In this mini-course, I cover:
1. Defining boundaries
2. Why self-care matters
3. Different styles of boundaries
4. The impact of these styles on our relationships
5. Psychodynamics of rigid & porous boundaries
6. Discovering your own boundaries & patterns
7. The 6 types of personal boundaries
8. Communicating these boundaries
9. A look into family dynamics & boundaries
10. Discovering your circle of influence
11. Solutions for communicating boundaries
12. A look into boundary violations
13. Dealing with boundary violations relationally
14. Boundary violation scripts
15. Feelings associated with boundaries
16. And 3 sets of reflection & journal prompts to help you dive deeper.
You'll get a downloadable ebook PDF